Woman took my car... civil issue... trying to get it back
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Let's see...
She had a crazy attorney issue... She is notorious for dropping attorney's and this was no different.
Her previous attorney wanted to withdrawal, she said OK... not that simple, but another lawyer put in a motion for appearance...
The issue is we had multiple cases joined.. DVI and Paternity, so that caused some confusion, but didn't hurt me as I had a single lawyer.
She showed up for the video hearing in bed in a nightgown, claiming she was recovering from coronavirus and was on multiple drugs.
I wasn't sure to be scared because of sympathy or what at that point.
Her new attorney showed up, but he was just there for her DVI dismissal hearing that she was able to get on the docket.
My attorney was fine with that.. I was a bit worried. I didn't want this woman near me ever again.. she's crazy dangerous.
I testified, I was cross-examined.. my attorney asked for 2 years no contact, the judge ruled that he just needed to believe there was a battery and said there was, 2 years of no contact granted...
Wow... It's been 115 days at this point... I was stunned, the tide is turning. 1 for 1. Her DVI lawyer leaves... she's there Pro Se (without attorney)
The next stop, to see if the paternity case would be continued... I kept saying... please god, no I just want to see my child.
She starts playing the sympathy card once again... She has no money, has called multiple different attorneys looking for anyone that would do Pro Bono work, wasn't getting child support from me, had applied for assistance etc etc...
My attorney said it would be prejudice to me to not have this hearing go forward as it has been almost 4 months and I haven't seen my daughter once during this time.
The judge immediately said, this may seem harsh... and I'm like nooooooooooooo I wanna see my daughter please... (in my head of course)
I am NOT Granting a Continuance...
The look on her face, laying in bed in her nightgown was epic insanity... I have to go Pro Se!?
Judge: Yes
Her: Even though I'm still waiting on financial assistance etc...
Judge: Yes, we cannot wait for you to see if you get it and you've had ample opportunity to find counsel.
We then move forward...
She asks if she can try to contact her lawyer... The Judge says OK, then leaves for a break.
She reaches her lawyer who didn't show up, and demands that he show up because the judge said so and he was not happy and she was tanking hard and losing. The problem is, she didn't mute her mic... Yes, it was wild.
The Judge calls he lawyer... and basically said, you don't need to be here, enjoy your weekend
The look on her face was wide eyed.. it was like WTF... you aren't going to make him show up here? WHAT.. I have to go alone? NOOOO
Judge: Yes
She continually interrupted the judge, my lawyer, her lawyer when he was there for the DVI and me over and over.
It was a sad display as she also objected about 75% of the time.
She even tooted her own horn during the hearing by saying YES! a couple of times when the judge ruled in her favor as well as her eye rolling, OMG statements and repeated interrupts by saying stuff which brought her camera to the forefront... nothing better for her to be continually seen in her nightgown laying in bed. On another note, nobody believes she even had COVID-19... but that's to be addressed down the road.
She ends it by calling a witness, which blew up in her face. The witness basically said that she did abuse my daughter as she tried to "not leave marks".
Couldn't ask for more from her only witness... THANKS!
Then to wrap it up... she stated that both of us were great parents, and things should continue the way they are and to put our daughter first as she is most important.
The judge didn't like that statement and told her it was in stark contrast to what she had been doing for 4 months...
Then he ruled...
2 years no contact was already established
1 month make-up time
Primary Custodian and she gets every other weekend...
OMG OMG OMG!!!!!! ******* WON and The Judge saw the light and truth!!!!
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So, I still need to figure a few things out about Parenting Rules.... because she is just trying to cause a major rift with my daughter and saying stuff to upset her still to this date. I'm waiting to speak to my attorney to clarify all the unknowns!
I wanted to give an update.. So the world is right at least of the time being! =)
She had a crazy attorney issue... She is notorious for dropping attorney's and this was no different.
Her previous attorney wanted to withdrawal, she said OK... not that simple, but another lawyer put in a motion for appearance...
The issue is we had multiple cases joined.. DVI and Paternity, so that caused some confusion, but didn't hurt me as I had a single lawyer.
She showed up for the video hearing in bed in a nightgown, claiming she was recovering from coronavirus and was on multiple drugs.
I wasn't sure to be scared because of sympathy or what at that point.
Her new attorney showed up, but he was just there for her DVI dismissal hearing that she was able to get on the docket.
My attorney was fine with that.. I was a bit worried. I didn't want this woman near me ever again.. she's crazy dangerous.
I testified, I was cross-examined.. my attorney asked for 2 years no contact, the judge ruled that he just needed to believe there was a battery and said there was, 2 years of no contact granted...
Wow... It's been 115 days at this point... I was stunned, the tide is turning. 1 for 1. Her DVI lawyer leaves... she's there Pro Se (without attorney)
The next stop, to see if the paternity case would be continued... I kept saying... please god, no I just want to see my child.
She starts playing the sympathy card once again... She has no money, has called multiple different attorneys looking for anyone that would do Pro Bono work, wasn't getting child support from me, had applied for assistance etc etc...
My attorney said it would be prejudice to me to not have this hearing go forward as it has been almost 4 months and I haven't seen my daughter once during this time.
The judge immediately said, this may seem harsh... and I'm like nooooooooooooo I wanna see my daughter please... (in my head of course)
I am NOT Granting a Continuance...
The look on her face, laying in bed in her nightgown was epic insanity... I have to go Pro Se!?
Judge: Yes
Her: Even though I'm still waiting on financial assistance etc...
Judge: Yes, we cannot wait for you to see if you get it and you've had ample opportunity to find counsel.
We then move forward...
She asks if she can try to contact her lawyer... The Judge says OK, then leaves for a break.
She reaches her lawyer who didn't show up, and demands that he show up because the judge said so and he was not happy and she was tanking hard and losing. The problem is, she didn't mute her mic... Yes, it was wild.
The Judge calls he lawyer... and basically said, you don't need to be here, enjoy your weekend
The look on her face was wide eyed.. it was like WTF... you aren't going to make him show up here? WHAT.. I have to go alone? NOOOO
Judge: Yes
She continually interrupted the judge, my lawyer, her lawyer when he was there for the DVI and me over and over.
It was a sad display as she also objected about 75% of the time.
She even tooted her own horn during the hearing by saying YES! a couple of times when the judge ruled in her favor as well as her eye rolling, OMG statements and repeated interrupts by saying stuff which brought her camera to the forefront... nothing better for her to be continually seen in her nightgown laying in bed. On another note, nobody believes she even had COVID-19... but that's to be addressed down the road.
She ends it by calling a witness, which blew up in her face. The witness basically said that she did abuse my daughter as she tried to "not leave marks".
Couldn't ask for more from her only witness... THANKS!
Then to wrap it up... she stated that both of us were great parents, and things should continue the way they are and to put our daughter first as she is most important.
The judge didn't like that statement and told her it was in stark contrast to what she had been doing for 4 months...
Then he ruled...
2 years no contact was already established
1 month make-up time
Primary Custodian and she gets every other weekend...
OMG OMG OMG!!!!!! ******* WON and The Judge saw the light and truth!!!!
-
So, I still need to figure a few things out about Parenting Rules.... because she is just trying to cause a major rift with my daughter and saying stuff to upset her still to this date. I'm waiting to speak to my attorney to clarify all the unknowns!
I wanted to give an update.. So the world is right at least of the time being! =)
Awesome news Jim! Glad to see all your patience and just being a good person is starting to pay off. I’m happy for you after all you’ve been through!
Thanks @Rocket Man @PPV12HOE
Long........ Ass Journey... doubting the system, but in the end it seemed to pay off so far... just need to figure out some other things and what's to come.
She will never stop making my life a living hell.
She still has a her hearing for her arrest coming up... Due to COVID-19 they are not doing jury trials it looks like for some time, so prosecutors are more apt to work with the suspect on deals, but not let them walk free. At this point getting any type of conviction is the best I could hope for as well as probation.
Long........ Ass Journey... doubting the system, but in the end it seemed to pay off so far... just need to figure out some other things and what's to come.
She will never stop making my life a living hell.
She still has a her hearing for her arrest coming up... Due to COVID-19 they are not doing jury trials it looks like for some time, so prosecutors are more apt to work with the suspect on deals, but not let them walk free. At this point getting any type of conviction is the best I could hope for as well as probation.
Tonyrodz
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I'm happy for you--glad the judge saw through her bs. And thx for updating us all.
@Tonyrodz Thanks man!
And I appreciate all the help and comments from members as well.
I forgot to mention, she had never submitted her financial affidavit so she couldn't get child support even if she wanted to...
She does a lot of things which make ZERO sense.
And I appreciate all the help and comments from members as well.
I forgot to mention, she had never submitted her financial affidavit so she couldn't get child support even if she wanted to...
She does a lot of things which make ZERO sense.
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....as the world turns.....I now feel like my life is 100% drama free after getting a glimpse at this thread
that's great news just keep doing the right thing and it will continue to be in your favor 
@Doubeleive right on brother... I'm doing the best I can... taking all suggestions from my lawyer.
Trying to figure out the details of what I can and can't do. My lawyer said allow just 10 min calls. She of course wants unlimited and no less than 30 mins a day. I'm waiting on clarity to find out what I will/can/should do.
Trying to figure out the details of what I can and can't do. My lawyer said allow just 10 min calls. She of course wants unlimited and no less than 30 mins a day. I'm waiting on clarity to find out what I will/can/should do.
ya there are rules about that I don't remember the specifics and those types of things may vary from state to state, child protective services will know the rules
I belong to another forum having to do with self storage, because I work as a resident manager, and we deal with the "entitled masses" all the time. This woman, term meant loosely, sounds like at least a squad leader if not the Captain of her own mass of the entitled. They all could literally walk in the deep end and it would not bother me.
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@fixmycar...
I hurt for your daughter most through all of this. I am a single father having had sole custody of my daughter for the past 9 years. She is 15 now. I am only the 2nd male in my county's history to take sole custody of a minor female. I get the uphill battle. I get the "crazy." I get wondering if truth will prevail. Make sure that you attribute these "victories" to their true source. It ain't me, it ain't you, and it ain't either of our bonkers women, I promise.
Your real job starts now. To protect and nurture one of God's most precious and fragile creations, a little girl. I'll tell you this. It's HARD WORK! Her perception of today will grow and change, but the feelings she (you, lol) will deal with are not going away anytime soon. It will get haywire at times, believe me.
Be her hero. Be her example. Do EVERYTHING you do with her best mind. Teach her the truth of faith and forgiveness. You're both going to need it. Praying for you guys!
I hurt for your daughter most through all of this. I am a single father having had sole custody of my daughter for the past 9 years. She is 15 now. I am only the 2nd male in my county's history to take sole custody of a minor female. I get the uphill battle. I get the "crazy." I get wondering if truth will prevail. Make sure that you attribute these "victories" to their true source. It ain't me, it ain't you, and it ain't either of our bonkers women, I promise.
Your real job starts now. To protect and nurture one of God's most precious and fragile creations, a little girl. I'll tell you this. It's HARD WORK! Her perception of today will grow and change, but the feelings she (you, lol) will deal with are not going away anytime soon. It will get haywire at times, believe me.
Be her hero. Be her example. Do EVERYTHING you do with her best mind. Teach her the truth of faith and forgiveness. You're both going to need it. Praying for you guys!
Well said Nate.
Tonyrodz
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Wow Nate, well said!
Well said sir. I didn’t know about your father/daughter situation until now and I congratulate you. I was in a long-term relationship with a woman who I almost married and thank God I decided to wait a bit longer because after the third year with her the true crazy in her came out and she ended up being super abusive to me. But there were 2 young daughters of hers to consider and she lost her way to make a living (long story) so I ended up staying with her another 4 years. Her youngest daughter who was 6 when we met had a relationship with her dad who lived in town but her oldest who was 9 when we met had no father figure because he had abandoned them and moved across the country when she was a baby. So in the 7 years I was with her mother I became the one she called her dad. When we split up, she wouldn’t let either see me. But they still snuck over and when her oldest turned 18 she moved into my house and has been here for the last 5 years going to college and now nursing school. She is the first in her family to graduate high school. First in her family to get a college degree. And now she will be a nurse in a few months, and she has been a nurses assistant for the last year working at an assisted living facility working directly with Covid patients. She is smart and strong and I’ve done all I can to encourage her, be there for her, and try to help her forgive her mother for all she put them through her entire life with her. Her youngest daughter who stuck with her mother because she had no choice, and whose father was an extreme alcoholic, has had a very different and rough life. She dropped out of high school her sophomore year and ended up getting addicted to ****** and meth. Her dad ended up dying due to complications from alcoholism when she was 18. I have tried to reach out to her but she has only come by a few times in the last 2 years. Their mother ended up moving in with several different men over the last several years but she always abused them until they kicked her out until finally becoming homeless and living out of the minivan I bought her. So I know all about the importance of a good father/ daughter relationship, especially when the mother isn’t the best. Through all this, I have made sure to not disparage their mother and just let her own actions be what her daughters use to form their own opinions of what they want to be like. There has been a lot of drama and tragedy in her life and her youngest daughters life due to the choices made by that side of their family, all due to drugs, alcohol, and the decision to try and live off the government or selling drugs instead of earning an honest living. I have been clean and sober since the year after I met these 2 young girls and decided I wanted to be a good father figure. Her oldest daughter, who I consider to be my daughter, lives in my house with her long-term boyfriend and they have a good life ahead of them. They are saving to buy a house and I’m trying to help. I want her to be set for a great life. Sorry for the long post but figured I’d add my experience to this awesome story.
Tonyrodz
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You're a good dude Mark. I was married twice--both were evil, but one was wayyyy smarter then the other--both were manipulative. I had custody of my 2 from my 1st marriage, through the courts. She was actually supposed to pay child support, but I never got a dime. Think she ever got locked up for non support?? NOPE! But let that be a guy who doesn't pay. Second ex wife was pure evil--and knew what to say and do to manipulate the courts, and police to her benefit. Anyway, my life turned into a bad country song. Lost everything--including my kids, my son I had with her( so 3 kids)car, house, job and freedom. All I'm saying is you're so lucky you had a lawyer and judge who saw through her bs finally. Good for you! I really hope everything works out for you and your daughter for the long haul. Lots of father's who want to be there for their kids, and who want to do the right thing, can't because the courts rake them over the coals, either because of evil women or inept council.
