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Sam Harris

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So this past month has been really difficult for me and for my wife. Her dad, technically her stepdad- but always was much more of a father to her than her real dad. He has been fighting cancer for almost 2 years. This is a rare and aggressive cancer called Merkel Cell Carcinoma.

When I first met Ken, I immediately knew he was an awesome guy. He was into cars, guns, a patriot, and he and I really clicked and had so much in common. He has always been a car guy and we talked at length about the 2 current fun cars he had built up, a 72 and a 77 El Camino -he built and installed 454’s in both.

I flew out to his home in Texas 2 weeks ago, my wife had already been there a week. Ken was worried about the 77 El Camino, since the seats were not installed, and he knew his wife would need to sell the cars. Ken asked me to install the seats for him, so I spent 2 days figuring out how they went, finding the tools I needed in his shop, installing the seats, seat belts and carpet. Reinstalling the interior panels and new sill plates.

Sunday, February 23rd, I drove the car up from the shop to the house, so he could see it, and let me know what he thought.

I flew home that day. Two days later he was gone. After sitting in his car, he went back in the house, laid in bed, and never got back up again. I wish I had been able to stay, I was worried about my kiddo missing too much school while I was unable to take her. It was a mistake to leave. I should have been there when he left us to be with God.

Ken passed away on Fat Tuesday, very appropriate for him, as he loved to party. He was laid to rest on leap day. Keep those close to your heart with you as much as possible. Always make time for them.

RIP: KP

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Sam,

I am very sorry to read about the passing of your father-in-law and your family's loss. On the positive side, you did have the opportunity to know him and share car/truck-related passions and experiences with him over a period of time. Further, you did get the opportunity to visit with him one last time, just prior to his passing. That is something that not everybody has the good fortune to be able to do. As long as we remember someone who has passed, they are not really gone.

When my Dad passed, a relative gave my Mom a piece of finished wood with the following words inscribed on it, and it now sits on her fireplace mantle, under a portrait of my Dad.

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

I hope that you find some solace in these words.

Joe
 

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you gave him that extra bit of peace he wanted and let him see his car back together before he left.
i really clicked with my wifes grandfather. i dont have any awesome stories but he was a great guy too. he is missed by alot of people as im sure her dad will be missed by alot too. sorry for your loss wish the best for the days moving forward.
 

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@Sam Harris ,
Spending quality time with those you love is so very important! I’m sure you made him a happy guy in those last few days! Lucky for you to have a father figure in that sense! I’m jealous of that! Stay fresh my friend and remember in these days that he’s home with Jesus, and that’s it’s just a goodbye for know until you meet him again on the flipside!
 

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I'm really sorry to hear about yours and your family's devastating loss. Try to remember the good times you had with him, and those smiles and that great joy you were able to bring him in those last days. Remember that my friend. Sorry again Sam.
 

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Sorry to hear about your loss, Sam, but I'll bet it warmed Ken's heart to see you get that put together for him. As a 'doer' he was probably frustrated that he couldn't do it himself, and you made his day. Reminds me a bit of my Dad, RIP, although with him it was carpentry.

Love the pics of you two together! I know that you'll keep him close in your memories and enjoy them; it's what we have to do here on earth.
 

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So sorry about you and your wife’s loss Sam. It sounds like you took care of something that had been weighing heavily on Kens mind and in taking care of that for him you allowed him to find his peace so he could move on. You’re a good man Sam Harris.
 

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Sorry to hear about your loss. It is never easy but thats a good thing cause that means you guys shared awesome memories together and had something special that most people miss out on. Like Everyone here said you gave him one of the greatest gifts one can a completed project and peace of mind knowing that he has you to take care of the ones he loves. Keep up the good work on being an awesome person and in time the sadness will turn into just fond memories. Stay Strong
 

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As was said before, it gave him peace to know that the cars were ready and they could be sold for his wife. He cared about everyone else right up to the end. So sorry to hear about you and the family's loss. It especially hits home with me knowing he was a patriot, like yourself. I had a '71 El Camino but not as nice as those two rigs. Remember, he will be in your hearts every day moving forward. Plus, great looking shop he had there. Definitely a man cave.
 

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My deepest condolences to you and your family, Sam. Ken sounds like a special guy. It certainly takes more than DNA to make a father. He clearly knew that well. The best thing you can do for him right now is to take good care of your wife.
 

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I’m sorry for your loss, my mother is fighting cancer right now. Celebrate his life, be there for your wife and live life to its fullest my brother. God bless you and your family now and forever.
 

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Sam, You have my deepest condolences. I am so glad to hear that you were able to spend some great time doing and being with your father-in-law in his last days. Those are times you will cherish and he cherished as well.

Cancer is such a evil thing. Your story hit me really hard when you first posted as my mother, who is battling Stage 4 colon cancer was in the ICU when you posted and we weren’t sure if she would make it. She is doing better and out of ICU, but is not out of the woods yet.
 

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Thinking back on losing my father in law, there are so many things I wish I could have done differently. You gave him one last gift before passing. Something he wish he had not left undone and you finished it for him. What a blessing he could sit down in that car again. You know that brought him tremendous joy before he left this earth. Good on you.
 

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