The reason you apply more pressure is that you have a new pad surface and an old rotor surface trying to mate. Rotors are less and less thick now so weight is saved and adds more MPG for the manufacturer. They save weight anywhere they can. Using the old rotor surface is NEVER recommended. You are going to do what you feel good with. I get it.
You damn Canucks are set in your ways. I get it but that is flawed thinking. New quality rotors are better than machining them, especially with the cost of machining them compared to new cost. New pads, best is ceramic, and new rotor surface is best to burnish them and have a great pedal. I know that your thoughts about ceramic pads is because of your use of old rotor surface.
Plus, semi metallic were a much worse choice at the time and that is why ceramic was developed. Give new tech a chance. Hell, at 67, I am old but I learn new tricks everyday.