What I did was use crimp connectors and connected the old connector from the old actuator to the new harness. ( cut off the one that came with the harness and used the actuator harness so it would plug in) what your saying is that I should be able to leave the prox sensor unglued and the system should work? I'm thinking its one of three things, my connection, bad actuator, or the guy screwed up wiring it. I'm going to grab a test light tomorrow and see if the actuator is getting power to it, I should be able to narrow the problem down.
After I figure the 4x4 out on to the manifold gasket, that tick pisses me off so much.