so i am gonna loosely dive into dads situation. on may 10th (friday) he got an ambulance ride to the er/critical care (where he would remain for about a day) the following day they figured out what was going on. he ended up having an aneurism in the artery just out of the top of the heart. this filled the paracortical sac around the heart. both of these things should/could have killed him, but somehow it stopped leaking on its own, to the point that he could have surgery to make repairs sunday morning. ( a VERY VERY long weekend!! )
he made surgery well, and started recovering in the icu. to shorten things up it was 3 weeks to the day that he became well enough to downgraded from the icu. and has been in a rehab type facility since. recovery has been very slow (four steps forward one back sort of thing) and he is still working to get off the ventilator (which means he cannot talk back). and will be quite some time ( months) before he would look to come home, if at all, IF he survives to that point.
so all this with regular trips to visit with him, deal with trying to get her moms house cleaned out and sold, while working full time.. and trying to fix vehicles, and look after 3 1/2 households ( ours, my mom/dads place (shes physically limited), her moms, and her mom in the camper in our drive ( also physically limited).