this is all going to be personal preference but from what you are saying you could go with the following..
1. What size bulbs? 9005s? or something else? - 9006/9005 is the same kit
2. I'm stuck between 6,000k and 8,000k, I do like a little blue but not a whole lot. - 6000k is pretty blue, i think you will be happy with the "blueness."
Short lesson on HID's and color: The bluer it is, the less light it outputs and the more it glares. Since you're using your stock reflectors, I would go even lower and get 5000K or 4500K. It is the whitest light, the most measurable light in output, and the least annoying to other drivers. My 4300K's are actually look pretty blue in the projectors. It is also the best for actual road illumination, especially in rain/wet conditions. Blue light disappears in the water and it can be about as bad as not having headlights at all.
Because you are using reflectors rather than projectors, the light is not focused, which causes some to "leak" into others fields of vision. Blue light glare is really ******* on-coming traffic eyes, especially in older people. I can give you scientific reasoning behind this, but I'll save space for now and skip that.
3. Do most people upgrade just lows, or both highs and lows? Which is recommended? Usually just lows, because it takes a while for the bulbs to get to full brightness, but the 6hi mod you could get away with it, certainly not necessary..
This one is mostly personal preference, although there is a definite lag in the warm-up when you switch on the highs. If you want instant light or are going to be going back and forth a lot between highs and lows, just stick with some good halogen bulbs.
4. 35w or 55w? I'm using the stock housing. - 35w is plenty bright
5. And what about the fogs, I would like to upgrade those too. - 880 HID kit
Some people will tell you not to do them at all with the stock reflector housing, there are a couple other threads that discuss with great detail, so you should definitely take a look at those before making any decision, knowledge is key..
my $.02