I know that but what I'm saying is I have the light on and message on my dash and it's not going away
Does the key have a + symbol near the base? If it isn't a chipped key, it won't have this symbol and will not turn off the security system. If it does have the plus, it's very likely the sensor in the ignition switch is faulty, but determining that will require a dealer trip or Tech 2 access.
As for the alarm, once you can get the security thing fixed, spend the $20 for two key fobs on Amazon and have them programmed to the vehicle. Then just use it to unlock and no more alarm when opening the door.